August 25th, 2010
It’s Not You, It’s Me. But, Actually, It’s You
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Male Reader requested this post, and since we try to give our Male Readers what they want (because we appreciate their participation…), here we go!
Scenario: Male Reader (who wishes to remain anonymous) was recently dumped, and he feels that the reason she gave (not ready for a relationships) was different than reality (thought he was weird).
We think we ALL know by now that the ultimate reason for whenever things don’t work out is that he (or she) is just not that into you. But let’s take it a step further, if you’re not that into someone, why? Any what did you say to explain it?
14 Comments
August 25th, 2010 at 2:21 pm
oh my gosh, best post ever!!!
August 25th, 2010 at 2:27 pm
here’s a list of reasons why friends have recently broken up w dudes…
1. someone else is trying harder
2. i like someone else more
3. i think i could do better
4. i’m scared (this usually means that she will call in 2 days and beg forgiveness)
5. i don’t think you like me so i’m beating you to the punch
6. i think you like me too much and i know i don’t feel the same way
7. i think it would be more fun to be single
8. you’re an awful kisser
9. you drive too fast over speed bumps
10. i disagree w your politics
11. you don’t appreciate me
12. my family/friends don’t like you
13. i met someone else
August 25th, 2010 at 3:37 pm
I think Melby covered it!
August 25th, 2010 at 4:14 pm
#9 on Melby’s list cracks me up.
August 25th, 2010 at 4:15 pm
I think melby did cover it well…I also think that “male reader”‘s gut feeling is right…she probably doesn’t think he is weird, but “not ready for relationship” does sound like a cop out.
August 25th, 2010 at 6:47 pm
If you don’t challenge me and I always get my way, eventually, I will lose interest. Stand up to me. Earn my respect. If not, we’ll find ourselves at #6.
August 25th, 2010 at 9:05 pm
Not that you’re a bad kisser, I’m just not attracted enough to you to kiss you on a regular basis.
August 25th, 2010 at 9:46 pm
I second Lady Natalie. None of us want to end up at #6, which will only lead to #7. Don’t be afraid to put me in my place. I will respect you more.
August 25th, 2010 at 9:48 pm
Also, just for the record… “not ready for a relationship” is almost always not the honest truth. Let’s respect each other by being honest.
August 26th, 2010 at 9:34 am
male reader is not ever gonna get the real answer…. I agree with RVA, girl shouldn’t make up BS to get out of dating… however if girls are 100% honest, that’s usually not respectful either! Anything that will make it less awkward when we see eachother next time is the aim, right?
To break up casual dating i stick with this … “this is what i like about you , but i know myself well enough to see that this isn’t gonna work. It’s nothing i can put my finger, it’s just my gut… So it doesn’t make sense to keep dating.” Then compliment him 1 more time and ta-da, compliment sandwich! Leaves it broken up but respect is still intact for all parties.
August 26th, 2010 at 10:20 am
real reason: You spend too much money on your car and talk about yourself too much
explained reason: I don’t see this going anywhere serious, but thanks for asking me out!
But I kinda wish I had given real feedback in this case.This cat should probably know that a girl likes it when guys ask her questions and really want to get to know her.
August 26th, 2010 at 12:44 pm
You honked for me on our second date.
I am not that attracted to you.
Something about your voice makes me think of my 2nd grade teacher…and she’s a lady.
You took me to dairy queen on our first date.
August 26th, 2010 at 1:03 pm
We don’t have the same sense of humor. Did you not notice that I wasn’t laughing at any of your jokes?
August 27th, 2010 at 11:16 pm
you’ve used an emoticon in every written communication you’ve sent me. every. single. one.
definite ditto lady natalie on the sense of humor.
you’re a horrible dancer.
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